20th Century Women (2016)

Movie · 2016 · Drama · 1h 58m · R · English

Curator score: 8.5/10 (279.9K ratings)

Some things just can't be fixed. Just be there

Overview

In 1979 Santa Barbara, California, Dorothea Fields is a determined single mother in her mid-50s who is raising her adolescent son, Jamie, at a moment brimming with cultural change and rebellion. Dorothea enlists the help of two younger women – Abbie, a free-spirited punk artist living as a boarder in the Fields' home and Julie, a savvy and provocative teenage neighbour – to help with Jamie's upbringing.

Ratings

Director

Mike Mills

Production

Annapurna Pictures, Archer Gray, Modern People

Cast

Annette Bening, Elle Fanning, Greta Gerwig, Billy Crudup, Lucas Jade Zumann, Alison Elliott, Thea Gill, Vitaly Andrew LeBeau, Olivia Hone, Waleed Zuaiter, Curran Walters, Darrell Britt-Gibson, Alia Shawkat, Nathalie Love, Cameron Protzman, Victoria Bruno, John Billingsley, Cameron Gellman, Finnegan Seeker Bell, Zoë Nanos

Where to watch

Netflix, Netflix Standard with Ads

Curator Review

Verdict

A warm, observant coming-of-age ensemble about parenting, identity, and the messy education of becoming yourself. It’s emotionally generous, smart about gender and generational change, and more interested in lived-in character detail than tidy plot mechanics.

Best for

  • Viewers who like intimate character dramas with a literary feel
  • Fans of 1970s-set stories about family, youth culture, and self-invention
  • Anyone drawn to thoughtful films about mothers, sons, and surrogate family
  • People who appreciate dialogue-driven, emotionally precise ensemble pieces

Skip if

  • You want a tightly plotted story with clear dramatic turns
  • You prefer high-energy filmmaking over reflective, conversational drama
  • You’re not in the mood for a film that is more mosaic than narrative engine

Overview

20th Century Women is one of those rare films that feels both deeply personal and quietly expansive. Mike Mills builds a portrait of a family, but also of a specific cultural moment when old rules were dissolving and no one had fully figured out what should replace them. The result is tender, funny, and emotionally alert without ever feeling sentimental in a cheap way.

Worth noting

Annette Bening gives the film its center as a mother trying to love her son without pretending she can fully understand him. Around her, the younger women bring different forms of intelligence, rebellion, and uncertainty, and the movie lets those differences coexist without forcing a single lesson. It’s especially strong in the way it treats adolescence not as a problem to solve, but as a state of becoming.

Bottom line

The film’s structure is loose, almost essayistic, which may not suit viewers who want a conventional arc. But that looseness is part of its charm: it accumulates meaning through gesture, memory, and conversation. If you like character studies that feel lived-in and emotionally exact, this is a standout.

Top Letterboxd reviews

özzy (5★) · 6974 likes

Greta didn't write this so I wasn't sure if I was going to get the full Gerwig experience but as soon as she said she was going to be late on rent I knew I was in the clear

Andre de Nervaux (5★) · 6261 likes

"So what was the fight about?" "Clitoral stimulation"

Olivia Craighead (5★) · 4817 likes

listen, i’ll say it, it is insane that a man made this movie.

Lucy (4.5★) · 3353 likes

greta gerwig: "menstruation" me: Acting is an activity in which a story is told by means of its enactment by an actor or actress who adopts a character—in theatre, television, film, radio, or any other medium that makes use of the mimetic mode

davidehrlich (4★) · 3165 likes

If there’s one thing that history teaches us time and time again, it’s that the past makes us feel like experts and the future makes us look like fools — we think we know where we’re going because we know where we’ve been. But it often doesn’t work out like that. At the end of the day, the world is something that you have to experience for yourself, even if it can take a movie like “20th Century Women” to… more If there’s one thing that history teaches us time and time again, it’s that the past makes us feel like experts and the future makes us look like fools — we think we know where we’re going because we know where we’ve been. But it often doesn’t work out like that. At the end of the day, the world is something that you have to experience for yourself, even if it can take a movie like “20th Century Women” to… more

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Topics

coming-of-age, family drama, 1970s, female-led, ensemble, nostalgic, introspective, queer-adjacent, indie drama, character study

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