A Real Pain (2024)

Movie · 2024 · Comedy, Drama · 1h 30m · R · English

Curator score: 7.3/10 (1.3M ratings)

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Overview

Mismatched cousins David and Benji reunite for a tour through Poland to honor their beloved grandmother. The adventure takes a turn when the pair's old tensions resurface against the backdrop of their family history.

Ratings

Director

Jesse Eisenberg

Production

Fruit Tree, Topic Studios, Extreme Emotions, Rego Park, Mazowiecki Instytut Kultury

Cast

Jesse Eisenberg, Kieran Culkin, Will Sharpe, Jennifer Grey, Kurt Egyiawan, Liza Sadovy, Daniel Oreskes, Ellora Torchia, Banner Eisenberg, Olha Bosova, Jakub Gąsowski, Piotr Czarniecki, Krzysztof Jaszczak, Marek Kasprzyk, Jakub Pruski

Curator Review

Verdict

A sharp, bittersweet road movie that uses family friction and Holocaust memory to explore grief, guilt, and the awkwardness of loving someone who exhausts you. It’s funny, humane, and emotionally precise, with standout performances and a compact runtime that keeps the film moving.

Best for

  • viewers who like character-driven dramedies
  • fans of odd-couple road trips
  • people interested in Jewish family history and memory
  • audiences who appreciate messy, charismatic performances
  • viewers seeking a short, emotionally layered film

Skip if

  • you want a plot-heavy or high-concept movie
  • you dislike abrasive, talkative characters
  • you prefer broad comedy over melancholy humor
  • you’re looking for an uplifting travelogue rather than emotional confrontation

Overview

A Real Pain is built on a deceptively simple setup: two cousins, one polished and anxious, the other impulsive and magnetic, travel through Poland and keep colliding with each other’s pain. Jesse Eisenberg turns that premise into something wry and observant, finding comedy in embarrassment, self-consciousness, and the way family members can know exactly which buttons to press.

Worth noting

Kieran Culkin is the film’s volatile center, but the movie works because it understands that charisma can be both a gift and a burden. Beneath the jokes and bickering is a serious meditation on inheritance, survivor guilt, and the strange distance between historical trauma and present-day privilege. It never feels didactic; it feels lived-in.

Bottom line

The result is a small film with a lot of emotional aftertaste. Its pleasures come from performance, rhythm, and the uneasy recognition that people often use humor to avoid saying the thing that hurts most. For viewers who like their comedies to leave a bruise, this is an easy recommendation.

Top Letterboxd reviews

mel!na (4★) · 43778 likes

can't get over how jesse eisenberg wrote a scene about how beautiful his feet are

margaux (4★) · 33602 likes

"hey why are you walking alone, are you a big fuckin' loser?" edit 6/4/25: i met kieran and told him i have the second highest letterboxd review for a real pain and he said he doesn't know what letterboxd is 😭🙏

Matt Singer (4★) · 28810 likes

This one runs almost exactly 90 minutes. That makes it a beautiful little short story, primarily about the agony of being a David when you so desperately want to be a Benji and have only just discovered that being a Benji is agony too.

Justin LaLiberty (4★) · 28473 likes

“my pain is unexceptional, so I don’t feel the need to burden everyone with it” is the realist shit I’ve heard all year — everyone in this is fantastic

Katie Walsh · 19159 likes

"you light up a room and then you shit on everything inside of it."

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Topics

dramedy, road trip, family conflict, Jewish identity, Holocaust remembrance, generational trauma, bittersweet, character study, ensemble, indie

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