Boy Erased (2018)

Movie · 2018 · Drama · 1h 55m · R · English

Curator score: 5.4/10 (47.5K ratings)

The truth cannot be converted.

Overview

Jared, the son of a Baptist pastor in a small American town, is outed to his parents at age 19. Jared is faced with an ultimatum: attend a gay conversion therapy program – or be permanently exiled and shunned by his family, friends, and faith.

Ratings

Director

Joel Edgerton

Production

Anonymous Content, Blue-Tongue Films, Perfect World Pictures, Focus Features

Cast

Lucas Hedges, Nicole Kidman, Russell Crowe, Joel Edgerton, Troye Sivan, Madelyn Cline, Flea, Xavier Dolan, Britton Sear, Cherry Jones, David Joseph Craig, Joe Alwyn, Théodore Pellerin, Jesse LaTourette, Emily Hinkler, David Ditmore, Matt Burke, William Ngo, Lindsey Moser, Victor McCay

Where to watch

Netflix, Netflix Standard with Ads

Curator Review

Verdict

A sincere, well-acted drama about family rejection and conversion therapy, with strong performances and a polished, accessible style. It’s worth watching if you want a mainstream, emotionally direct account of queer trauma, though some viewers may find it emotionally distancing and dramatically conventional.

Best for

  • Viewers interested in LGBTQ+ issue dramas
  • Fans of performance-driven family conflict stories
  • People looking for an accessible, mainstream treatment of conversion therapy
  • Audiences who appreciate restrained, polished prestige drama

Skip if

  • You want a more radical, formally adventurous queer film
  • You’re sensitive to conversion-therapy and sexual-assault content
  • You prefer movies with a warmer emotional payoff or more nuanced secondary characters
  • You’re looking for a lighter or more hopeful coming-of-age story

Overview

Boy Erased is built as a prestige drama with a clear moral center: the harm done when faith, family, and institutions are used to police identity. Joel Edgerton keeps the storytelling clean and watchable, and the cast gives the material real weight, especially in the scenes where love and cruelty coexist in the same room.

Worth noting

What stands out most is the film’s seriousness. It doesn’t treat conversion therapy as a debate topic; it treats it as a system of shame and control. That gives the movie urgency, even when the script leans on familiar beats and some viewers may feel the emotional distance that comes with its controlled style.

Bottom line

The result is effective rather than transformative. It’s a solid, compassionate film with strong performances and a clear purpose, but not the most daring or deeply layered entry in this space. For many viewers, that balance will be enough; for others, it may feel too polished for such raw subject matter.

Top Letterboxd reviews

Jay · 2381 likes

if were giving lady bird characters spin offs, im curious to see the kyle scheible movie where he uncovers government conspiracies and disrespects women

Logan Van Winkle (3★) · 1991 likes

Lucas Hedges didn’t wash his hands after going to the bathroom.

jamie 💫 · 1647 likes

Boy Erased Budget: set production: class="h-100",000,000troye sivan w/ bleached hair: $8,000,000xavier dolan in a suit: CAD$8,000,000 nicole kidman’s blonde wig: class="h-100".25 someone who is good at making movies please tell me what im doing wrong update: i went to a book talk by the author of boy erased!! cool stuff

anthony (3.5★) · 1636 likes

the uglier nicole kidman's wig gets, the more powerful she becomes

sydney (5★) · 1618 likes

they tried to convince me troye sivan’s name was gary

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Topics

LGBTQ drama, religious trauma, family conflict, prestige drama, coming-of-age, conversion therapy, emotional restraint, small-town America, identity crisis, social issue film

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