Drive My Car (2021)

Movie · 2021 · Drama · 2h 59m · NR · Japanese

Curator score: 9.3/10 (463.7K ratings)

Go on living.

Overview

Yusuke Kafuku, a stage actor and director, still unable, after two years, to cope with the loss of his beloved wife, accepts to direct Uncle Vanya at a theater festival in Hiroshima. There he meets Misaki, an introverted young woman, appointed to drive his car. In between rides, secrets from the past and heartfelt confessions will be unveiled.

Ratings

Director

Ryusuke Hamaguchi

Production

Bitters End, C&I entertainment, Culture Entertainment, nekojarashi, Quaras, Bungeishunju

Cast

Hidetoshi Nishijima, Toko Miura, Masaki Okada, Reika Kirishima, Park Yu-rim, Jin Dae-yeon, Sonia Yuan, Ahn Hwi-tae, Perry Dizon, Satoko Abe, Hiroko Matsuda, Toshiaki Inomata, Takako Yamamura, Ryo Iwase, Faisal Anwar, Kamal Zharif, Massimo Biondi, Shoichiro Tanigawa, Yoshinori Miyata, Keiko Nishi

Curator Review

Verdict

A patient, devastating drama about grief, performance, and the difficulty of truly knowing another person. Its long takes and quiet accumulation of feeling reward viewers who like emotionally precise, contemplative cinema.

Best for

  • viewers who enjoy slow-burn character studies
  • fans of grief and relationship dramas
  • people drawn to theater and performance narratives
  • audiences who appreciate long, reflective films with subtle emotional payoffs

Skip if

  • you want a fast plot or constant incident
  • you dislike long runtimes and deliberate pacing
  • you prefer emotionally direct, highly expository storytelling
  • you need a movie that stays conventionally dramatic throughout

Overview

Drive My Car is the kind of film that seems to expand as you watch it. What begins as a study of mourning and routine gradually opens into something larger: a meditation on language, performance, and the ways people carry one another’s pain without ever fully understanding it.

Worth noting

Ryusuke Hamaguchi’s direction is patient and exacting, letting conversations breathe until they become revelations. The film’s structure, including its extended opening, can feel unhurried at first, but that slowness is the point: it creates space for silence, repetition, and the small shifts that make emotional truth feel earned.

Bottom line

What lingers most is the film’s tenderness. It is sad, but not bleak; observant, but never cold. By the end, it has built an unusually moving sense of connection between strangers, lovers, collaborators, and the stories they tell themselves to keep going.

Top Letterboxd reviews

David Chen (4.5★) · 12423 likes

You know this shit is good when they don't drop the opening credits on you until 40 minutes in. Sorry, it's just a golden rule of movies.

demi adejuyigbe · 9911 likes

my therapist likes to stop me whenever i criticize myself with the word ‘should,' that i should feel some way, that i should have done something. we stop and dig into this statement until i get to the root of it and try to understand how i've internalized whatever idea or feeling or action is meant to be "correct" or "normal." it's a hard thing for me to do because it's always easiest to lightly lean on myself as the… more my therapist likes to stop me whenever i criticize myself with the word ‘should,' that i should feel some way, that i should have done something. we stop and dig into this statement until i get to the root of it and try to understand how i've internalized whatever idea or feeling or action is meant to be "correct" or "normal." it's a hard thing for me to do because it's always easiest to lightly lean on myself as the… more

Patrick Willems (4.5★) · 8403 likes

I know there’s way more important stuff here but I have to point out that the 2-door red Saab is one of the best movie cars I’ve ever seen. Just a truly excellent car. Lots of character.

David Sims (5★) · 6677 likes

smokin cigs out the sunroof together

Chris Evangelista (4★) · 6005 likes

That shot of the two of them holding their cigarettes up through the sunroof is an all-timer.

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Topics

slow cinema, literary adaptation, ensemble drama, grief, theater world, marital loss, introspective, character study, Japanese drama, meditative

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