Husbands (1970)

Movie · 1970 · Comedy, Drama · 2h 11m · PG-13 · English

Curator score: 7.2/10 (27.8K ratings)

A comedy about life, death and freedom.

Overview

A common friend's sudden death brings three men, married with children, to reconsider their lives and ultimately leave the country together. But mindless enthusiasm for regained freedom will be short-lived.

Ratings

Director

John Cassavetes

Production

Faces Music, Columbia Pictures

Cast

Ben Gazzara, Peter Falk, John Cassavetes, Jenny Runacre, Jenny Lee Wright, Noelle Kao, John Kullers, Meta Shaw Stevens, Leola Harlow, Delores Delmar, Eleanor Zee, Claire Malis, Peggy Lashbrook, Eleanor Cody Gould, Sarah Felcher, Bill Britten, Arthur Clark, Gwen Van Dam, John Armstrong, Charles Gaines

Curator Review

Verdict

A raw, funny, and increasingly painful portrait of male friendship under pressure, with Cassavetes turning a boozy road trip into a study of grief, ego, and emotional immaturity. It’s messy on purpose, but the performances and observational force make it a major work if you’re open to abrasive, improvisational cinema.

Best for

  • Viewers who like emotionally volatile character studies
  • Fans of 1970s American independent cinema
  • People interested in male friendship, grief, and midlife crisis stories
  • Audiences who appreciate loose, improvisational, performance-driven filmmaking

Skip if

  • You want a tightly plotted or conventionally paced comedy
  • You dislike abrasive, repetitive, or confrontational behavior on screen
  • You prefer clear moral framing or likable protagonists
  • You’re not in the mood for a film that is as uncomfortable as it is funny

Overview

Husbands is one of the defining Cassavetes films: loose in structure, fierce in feeling, and uninterested in making its characters easy to love. What begins as a wake for a dead friend becomes a drunken flight from responsibility, with three men trying to outrun grief by acting like boys who have been let out of school early. The comedy is real, but it’s the kind that keeps curdling into embarrassment, loneliness, and self-recognition.

Worth noting

The film’s power comes from how closely it watches male friendship as a closed system. These men can perform affection, rivalry, and bravado, but they struggle to speak honestly about loss or fear. Cassavetes lets scenes run long enough for charm to become cruelty and for freedom to look less like liberation than panic.

Bottom line

It won’t work for everyone, especially viewers who need narrative momentum or emotional neatness. But if you respond to cinema that feels alive in the moment, and to performances that seem to discover the movie as they go, Husbands is a bracing and often devastating experience.

Top Letterboxd reviews

cuckoochanel (4.5★) · 1150 likes

Husbands is a survey of the male midlife crisis as depicted by three friends who abandon home, country, responsibility, civility, and sanity when confronted with their own mortalities in the wake of a beloved friend’s death. It cannot be overstated how alienating this experience was for me, a woman. Seeing John Cassavetes, Ben Gazzara, and Peter Falk traipse about New York City and London in madcap fashion on the hunt for booze and cooze wasn’t exactly an unfamiliar antic in the… more

fran hoepfner (4★) · 1055 likes

totally nails the agony of when all you want to do is throw up and your friend won't stop talking

Dante (4★) · 827 likes

Feels less like a film and more like a sociological examination of male relationships - the relationships men have with women, the relationships men have with each other, and the relationships that men have with themself. These men are fundamentally unable to sincerely communicate grief to each other, unable to sincerely communicate their guilt and sadness, they can barely understand the world around them - not even their wives and families - because of how deeply they understand each other.… more Feels less like a film and more like a sociological examination of male relationships - the relationships men have with women, the relationships men have with each other, and the relationships that men have with themself. These men are fundamentally unable to sincerely communicate grief to each other, unable to sincerely communicate their guilt and sadness, they can barely understand the world around them - not even their wives and families - because of how deeply they understand each other.… more

KYK (4★) · 632 likes

i think about what Cassavetes said about Love Streams more in relation to Husbands: that it was "so psychologically dangerous, lonely, terrifying and so uncommercial" that they "pretended [they] had a comedy." indeed, as the tagline says: "a comedy about life, death, and freedom."

Mark Asch (4.5★) · 537 likes

Gazzara has no brain, Cassavetes has no heart, Falk has no courage, and not a Dorothy to be found anywhere. Truly, there's no place like home.

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Topics

independent cinema, improvisational, character study, black comedy, drama, 1970s, male bonding, grief, road movie, messy relationships

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