My Father and My Son (2005)

Movie · 2005 · Drama · 1h 52m · TR

Curator score: 8.6/10 (150.6K ratings)

Give Him a Room Dad, He Has Nowhere to Go...

Overview

A left-wing journalist whose wife died while giving birth to his son during a military coup returns to his family's farm. Estranged from his father for turning his back on the family and wasting his life with political activism instead, he tries to reconnect with him so that his son will have a place to live as his health is deteriorating due to the extensive torture he had to endure.

Ratings

Director

Çağan Irmak

Production

Avşar Film

Cast

Fikret Kuşkan, Ege Tanman, Çetin Tekindor, Hümeyra, Şerif Sezer, Yetkin Dikinciler, Binnur Kaya, Mahmut Gökgöz, Nergis Çorakçı, Bilge Şen, Tuba Büyüküstün, Özge Özberk, Erdal Tosun, Halit Ergenç, Muzaffer Demirel, Ertuğrul Gündüz, Alaaddin Sakar, Sencar Sağdıç, Aytaç Özgür, Serkan Kunter

Curator Review

Verdict

A deeply emotional family melodrama that blends political trauma, generational conflict, and reconciliation with a strong tearjerker payoff. It’s especially effective if you want a sincere, crowd-pleasing drama about fathers, sons, and the long shadow of history.

Best for

  • viewers who like emotional family dramas
  • fans of tearjerkers with political context
  • audiences interested in Turkish cinema
  • people drawn to reconciliation stories
  • viewers who appreciate child-centered emotional stakes

Skip if

  • you want a light or uplifting watch
  • you dislike overt melodrama
  • you prefer subtle, understated storytelling
  • political backstory in family drama turns you off

Overview

My Father and My Son is built to break you open, but it earns the feeling through a strong sense of place and generational pain. The film uses a family reunion on a rural farm to stage a much larger reckoning: ideology, guilt, grief, and the damage done by state violence all come crashing into one household.

Worth noting

What makes it work is the emotional clarity. The father-son conflict is simple on the surface, yet the film keeps revealing how much each man has lost and how little time they have left to repair it. The child’s presence gives the story warmth and innocence without softening the ache.

Bottom line

This is unabashedly melodramatic, and that is part of its appeal. If you respond to big feelings, cathartic confrontations, and final-act devastation, it lands hard. If you prefer restraint, it may feel designed to make you cry—but for many viewers, that is exactly the point.

Top Letterboxd reviews

kosovalı (5★) · 1105 likes

son 20 dakikasını ağlamaktan göremedim ama eminim çok iyi çekilmiştir

samet (5★) · 985 likes

film bu mehmet abi milleti ağlatmak için yalandan yapıyorlar

şüheda (5★) · 812 likes

"Hayat devam edecek, birileri yeni kitaplar yazacak okuyamayacaksın, yeni filmler çekilecek izleyemeyeceksin, sevdiğin bir şarkıyı bir daha dinlemek isterken dinleyemeyeceksin..."

Hiyarrakos (4★) · 506 likes

Artık beğeni gelmesin diye yorumu değiştiriyorum fena depresyondayım telefonuma gelen tek sikik bildirim de bu yorumun beğenilmesi,reddediyorum

hira (5★) · 473 likes

al canımı da kurtul aq filmi

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Topics

tearjerker, family drama, political melodrama, intergenerational conflict, grief, reconciliation, rural setting, historical trauma, emotional catharsis, Turkish cinema

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