The Opposite of Sex (1998)

Movie · 1998 · Comedy, Drama · 1h 45m · R · English

Curator score: 5.0/10 (22.4K ratings)

You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll be offended

Overview

A 16-year-old girl visits her gay half-brother and ends up seducing his boyfriend, thus wreaking havoc on all of their lives.

Ratings

Director

Don Roos

Production

Rysher Entertainment, David Kirkpatrick Productions, Michael Besman Productions

Cast

Christina Ricci, Martin Donovan, Lisa Kudrow, Lyle Lovett, Johnny Galecki, William Lee Scott, Ivan Sergei, Megan Blake, Colin Ferguson, Dan Bucatinsky, Chauncey Leopardi, Rodney Eastman, Heather Fairfield, Amy Atkins, Leslie Grossman, Emily Newman, Harrison Young, Pancho Demmings, Terry L. Rose, Richard Moore

Curator Review

Verdict

A sharp, nasty, and often very funny late-90s indie farce with strong performances and a real bite, but its satire is uneven and some of its sexual politics can feel more abrasive than insightful today.

Best for

  • Viewers who like dark, dialogue-driven relationship comedies
  • Fans of queer-leaning indie films with a cynical edge
  • People who enjoy morally chaotic characters making terrible choices
  • Anyone interested in Christina Ricci or Lisa Kudrow at their most offbeat

Skip if

  • You want a warm, affirming LGBTQ comedy
  • You’re sensitive to homophobic or biphobic material used for satire
  • You prefer clean tonal control over messy, confrontational storytelling
  • You dislike characters who are intentionally selfish and destructive

Overview

The Opposite of Sex is a caustic little grenade of a movie: rude, wounded, and frequently very funny. Don Roos builds a chain-reaction comedy out of bad decisions, sexual confusion, and emotional sabotage, with Christina Ricci giving the film its feral center and Lisa Kudrow stealing scenes with unexpectedly rich comic timing.

Worth noting

What makes it linger is the sense that the film is less interested in tidy morality than in the damage people do when they’re lonely, angry, and half-lying to themselves. That gives it a certain postmodern snap, but it also means the satire doesn’t always land cleanly, especially around queer identity and the era’s casual cruelty.

Bottom line

For viewers in the mood for a smart, acidic indie with a strong 1990s voice, it’s worth a look. For anyone expecting a straightforward or especially sensitive treatment of sexuality, it may feel more provocative than rewarding.

Top Letterboxd reviews

lily (3.5★) · 185 likes

"if there have to be gay people, at least there's enough of them to go around" christina ricci narrating: i am going to create an environment so homophobic

Bela (2.5★) · 149 likes

If we took all the homophobic conversations out of the script we’d only get three minutes of film

D. (4.5★) · 116 likes

A should-be-classic example of postmodern storytelling, this mature, raucous I-don't-know-what-the-fuck-genre-this-is picture revels in its intelligence, led by a near-perfect screenplay from writer-director Don Roos (nominated for the WGA award--Oscar ignored it for reasons that are probably stupid) and ace performances from Christina Ricci, Martin Donovan and, most of all, Lisa Kudrow, showing off a surprising range as a character so common in everyday life often relegated to one line in the movies. This film is real, funny, unpredictable, entertaining and… more A should-be-classic example of postmodern storytelling, this mature, raucous I-don't-know-what-the-fuck-genre-this-is picture revels in its intelligence, led by a near-perfect screenplay from writer-director Don Roos (nominated for the WGA award--Oscar ignored it for reasons that are probably stupid) and ace performances from Christina Ricci, Martin Donovan and, most of all, Lisa Kudrow, showing off a surprising range as a character so common in everyday life often relegated to one line in the movies. This film is real, funny, unpredictable, entertaining and… more

ཐི༏ཋྀ󠀮 ༻𝕙𝕒𝕝𝕖𝕪༺ ཐི༏ཋྀ󠀮 (4.5★) · 111 likes

“when you go low i go lowER” ahh movie 😵‍💫 i can’t lie i had so much fun watching every character in this movie make horrible choices LOL #ibelieveinChristinaRiccisupremacy 💃❤️‍🔥

Brian Formo (3.5★) · 97 likes

The Opposite of Sex was a grenade toss of jaded anti-everything from Old Queen writer-director Don Roos; what was then a grenade is now a total fucking minefield and would never be made today except by someone who tosses around words like "virtue signaling" and "SJW." Which is to say, I think this came from a place of queer solidarity and warped love in 1998, but now it says things that no one was and would be hijacked by jackals… more The Opposite of Sex was a grenade toss of jaded anti-everything from Old Queen writer-director Don Roos; what was then a grenade is now a total fucking minefield and would never be made today except by someone who tosses around words like "virtue signaling" and "SJW." Which is to say, I think this came from a place of queer solidarity and warped love in 1998, but now it says things that no one was and would be hijacked by jackals… more

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Topics

dark comedy, queer satire, relationship farce, indie drama, 1990s, caustic humor, family dysfunction, sexual politics, ensemble cast, moral mess

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