This Is 40 (2012)

Movie · 2012 · Comedy · 2h 14m · R · English

Curator score: 1.9/10 (312K ratings)

The sort-of sequel to 'Knocked Up'

Overview

Pete and Debbie are both about to turn 40, their kids hate each other, both of their businesses are failing, they're on the verge of losing their house, and their relationship is threatening to fall apart.

Ratings

Director

Judd Apatow

Production

Apatow Productions, Forty Productions, Universal Pictures

Cast

Paul Rudd, Leslie Mann, John Lithgow, Megan Fox, Maude Apatow, Iris Apatow, Chris O'Dowd, Jason Segel, Melissa McCarthy, Graham Parker, Albert Brooks, Lena Dunham, Annie Mumolo, Robert Smigel, Lo Mutuc, Lisa Darr, Billie Joe Armstrong, Michael Ian Black, Wyatt Russell, Tom Yi

Curator Review

Verdict

A sharp, often very funny hangout comedy about middle-aged marriage, parenting, money stress, and resentment, but it’s also overlong and repetitive. The best scenes are observant and painfully specific; the weakest feel like the movie is circling the same arguments for too long.

Best for

  • Viewers who like messy relationship comedies with emotional honesty
  • Fans of Judd Apatow’s improv-heavy, character-first style
  • People interested in midlife anxiety, parenting chaos, and domestic dysfunction
  • Audiences who don’t mind a loose, sprawling runtime for strong comic performances

Skip if

  • You want a tightly plotted comedy with a brisk pace
  • You’re impatient with self-indulgent runtimes or repeated arguments
  • You prefer broad, joke-dense comedies over awkward, lived-in realism
  • You dislike cringe humor built from marital fighting and family tension

Overview

This Is 40 works best as a comedy of accumulated irritation: school drama, money problems, aging bodies, and the quiet terror of realizing your life is not turning out as planned. It has a strong sense of domestic detail, and the cast gives the material enough warmth that the uglier behavior still feels recognizable rather than merely mean.

Worth noting

The movie’s biggest problem is also its defining trait: it keeps going long after the point has been made. Some scenes are hilarious because they feel painfully true, while others feel like the film is repeating the same emotional beat with a different argument attached.

Bottom line

Still, there’s real value in its specificity. If you respond to relationship comedies that are more anxious than romantic, and more observational than neatly structured, this has enough bite and enough tenderness to make it worthwhile despite the bloat.

Top Letterboxd reviews

Mojo Hill (3.5★) · 1700 likes

This Is 40 Minutes Too Long

Willow Maclay · 1279 likes

Like a cautionary tale for heteronormativity.

˗ˏˋ suspirliam ˊˎ˗ (3.5★) · 1106 likes

tag yourself i'm sadie letting lost take over her whole entire life

trin (4.5★) · 866 likes

melissa mccarthy blooper scene is enough for me to give it at MINIMUM 3 stars

davidehrlich (2★) · 850 likes

i can only hope my 40s feel this long.

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Topics

midlife crisis, marital conflict, parenting, family dysfunction, cringe comedy, domestic realism, money problems, ensemble comedy, 2010s comedy, relationship anxiety

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