When Harry Met Sally... (1989)

Movie · 1989 · Comedy, Romance, Drama · 1h 36m · R · English

Curator score: 8.4/10 (1.4M ratings)

Can two friends sleep together and still love each other in the morning?

Overview

Sex always gets in the way of friendships between men and women. At least, that's what Harry Burns believes. So when Harry meets Sally Albright and a deep friendship blossoms between them, Harry's determined not to let his attraction to Sally destroy it. But when a night of weakness ends in a morning of panic, can the pair avoid succumbing to Harry's fears by remaining friends and admitting they just might be the perfect match for each other?

Ratings

Director

Rob Reiner

Production

Castle Rock Entertainment, Nelson Entertainment

Cast

Billy Crystal, Meg Ryan, Carrie Fisher, Bruno Kirby, Steven Ford, Lisa Jane Persky, Michelle Nicastro, Gretchen Palmer, Robert Alan Beuth, David Burdick, Joe Viviani, Harley Jane Kozak, Joseph Hunt, Kevin Rooney, Franc Luz, Tracy Reiner, Kyle T. Heffner, Kimberley LaMarque, Stacey Katzin, Estelle Reiner

Curator Review

Verdict

A sharp, endlessly rewatchable romantic comedy with unusually observant writing about friendship, attraction, and the awkward rituals of modern dating. It’s funny, warm, and emotionally precise, with two charismatic leads and one of the genre’s most famous endings.

Best for

  • fans of dialogue-driven romantic comedies
  • viewers who like New York as a character
  • people who enjoy slow-burn chemistry and emotional honesty
  • audiences looking for a smart, rewatchable 80s rom-com

Skip if

  • you want high-concept plotting over conversation
  • you dislike talky, character-based comedies
  • you prefer romance that is more melodramatic than witty
  • you’re not in the mood for a very specific late-80s urban sensibility

Overview

This is one of the defining romantic comedies because it understands that attraction is often tangled up with timing, ego, and self-protection. The movie’s pleasure comes from watching two people who are clearly right for each other spend years insisting they are not, while the script keeps finding fresh comic angles on loneliness and desire.

Worth noting

What still feels special is how lived-in it is. The banter is fast but never airless, and the film gives equal weight to friendship, sexual tension, and the little habits that make a relationship feel real. New York is rendered as a place for talk, wandering, and emotional drift, which suits the movie’s patient build.

Bottom line

It’s also a star vehicle in the best sense: both leads are funny, vulnerable, and sharply defined, and the supporting players add texture without stealing the center. The result is a romantic comedy that is both comforting and unusually intelligent, with enough wit and feeling to justify its reputation.

Top Letterboxd reviews

Karsten (4.5★) · 28167 likes

she has great hair, he has god awful hair, simple as that

Jay (4★) · 23347 likes

no more tinder just carrie fisher and her rolodex picking your ideal mate

Jack (5★) · 22975 likes

Friend 1: Don't Do ItFriend 2: You Better NotFriend 3: Jack, Sit Down Me: I LOVE THAT YOU GET COLD WHEN ITS 71 DEGREES OUT. I LOVE THAT IT TAKES YOU AN HOUR AND A HALF TO ORDER A SANDWICH. I LOVE THAT YOU GET A LITTLE CRINKLE ABOVE YOUR NOSE WHEN YOU'RE LOOKING AT ME LIKE IM NUTS. I LOVE THAT AFTER I SPEND THE DAY WITH YOU, I CAN STILL SMELL YOUR PERFUME ON MY CLOTHES.… more

eleonora by edgar allen poe (5★) · 18728 likes

1989 meg ryan is the most beautiful woman in the world. Billy crystal is probably part goblin but i love him 2

amanda (4.5★) · 15450 likes

my dad muted the fake orgasm scene but then my mom grabbed the remote and turned the volume back on ...what an icon

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Topics

romantic comedy, dialogue-driven, New York City, slow burn, witty, ensemble, late 1980s, relationship dynamics, adult romance, feel-good

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