Beginners (2011)

Movie · 2011 · Drama, Romance, Comedy · 1h 44m · R · English

Curator score: 8.2/10 (180.1K ratings)

This is what love feels like.

Overview

Oliver meets the irreverent and unpredictable Anna only months after his father Hal Fields has passed away. This new love floods Oliver with memories of his father, who, following the death of his wife of 44 years, came out of the closet at age 75 to live a full, energized, and wonderfully tumultuous gay life – which included a younger boyfriend.

Ratings

Director

Mike Mills

Production

Parts & Labor, Olympus Pictures

Cast

Ewan McGregor, Christopher Plummer, Mélanie Laurent, Goran Višnjić, Kai Lennox, Mary Page Keller, Keegan Boos, China Shavers, Melissa Tang, Amanda Payton, Luke Diliberto, Lou Taylor Pucci, Jennifer Lauren Grant, Reynaldo Pacheco, Jodi Long, Bruce French, Leslie Shea, Michael Chieffo, Jennifer Hasty, June Saunders

Where to watch

Amazon Prime Video, Amazon Prime Video with Ads

Curator Review

Verdict

A tender, lightly comic grief story that turns into a moving meditation on late-life reinvention, family, and the messy ways people learn to love each other. It’s especially rewarding if you like intimate character studies with a gentle, offbeat tone and emotional honesty.

Best for

  • viewers who like bittersweet indie dramas
  • fans of quiet, character-driven romance
  • people drawn to stories about grief, aging, and second chances
  • audiences who appreciate wry humor mixed with sincerity

Skip if

  • you want a plot-heavy movie with strong twists
  • you dislike elliptical, conversational storytelling
  • you prefer romance that stays conventional and tidy
  • you’re not in the mood for melancholy or emotional vulnerability

Overview

Beginners is one of those rare films that makes emotional honesty feel playful rather than heavy. Mike Mills builds the story out of fragments, memories, and small gestures, letting the characters drift through grief, attraction, and self-reinvention without forcing neat conclusions. The result is intimate and deeply humane, with a tone that feels both breezy and devastating.

Worth noting

Christopher Plummer gives the film its heartbeat as a father who finally gets to live on his own terms, while Ewan McGregor grounds the story in quiet uncertainty and longing. Mélanie Laurent brings a spark of unpredictability that keeps the movie from settling into pure melancholy. The humor is dry, the sadness is real, and the balance between the two is what makes it linger.

Bottom line

What stands out most is the film’s faith in ordinary moments: conversations in bed, awkward pauses, small acts of care, and the way memory keeps rewriting the present. It’s a love story, but also a story about permission — to grieve, to change, and to begin again even when you feel far from new.

Top Letterboxd reviews

issy 🥝 (5★) · 3019 likes

this film feels like one long conversation between two people lay on the floor staring at the ceiling when they should be asleep but they can't sleep so they tell each other whatever they think of, relevant to anything or not, and they laugh and maybe cry and there's both comfortable and awkward pauses but always a mutual understanding that none of it really means anything but the fact that it means nothing means something. mike mills you are the… more this film feels like one long conversation between two people lay on the floor staring at the ceiling when they should be asleep but they can't sleep so they tell each other whatever they think of, relevant to anything or not, and they laugh and maybe cry and there's both comfortable and awkward pauses but always a mutual understanding that none of it really means anything but the fact that it means nothing means something. mike mills you are the… more

vi (5★) · 2338 likes

i relate to the dog because i would also start crying if ewan mcgregor left me

#1 gizmo fan (5★) · 1423 likes

honestly one of the most truthful and beautiful stories about love ever put to screen. makes me cry every single time.

mulaney (5★) · 1257 likes

"you can stay in the same place and still find ways to leave people." i am at a loss for words. this was beautiful.

matt lynch (4★) · 1181 likes

"Here. Here is simple and happy. That's what I meant to give you."

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Topics

indie drama, romantic dramedy, bittersweet, queer cinema, grief, family, aging, intimate, offbeat, 2010s

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