Breaking the Waves (1996)

Movie · 1996 · Drama, Romance · 2h 39m · R · DA

Curator score: 8.9/10 (154.1K ratings)

Love is a mighty power.

Overview

In a small, conservative Scottish village, an oilman is paralyzed in an accident. His wife, who prayed for his return, feels guilty; even more, when he urges her to have sex with another.

Ratings

Director

Lars von Trier

Production

Zentropa Entertainments, Liberator Productions, Trust Film Svenska, Argus Film Produktie, Northern Lights, SVT Drama

Cast

Emily Watson, Stellan Skarsgård, Katrin Cartlidge, Jean-Marc Barr, Adrian Rawlins, Jonathan Hackett, Sandra Voe, Udo Kier, Mikkel Gaup, Roef Ragas, Robert Robertson, Phil McCall, Desmond Reilly, Sarah Gudgeon, Finlay Welsh, David Gallacher, Ray Jeffries, Owen Kavanagh, Bob Docherty, David Bateson

Where to watch

MUBI

Curator Review

Verdict

A devastating, fiercely acted melodrama that turns faith, desire, and sacrifice into a raw moral ordeal. It is emotionally punishing and intentionally abrasive, but for viewers drawn to fearless performances and confrontational art cinema, it is essential.

Best for

  • viewers who want intense, emotionally shattering drama
  • fans of provocative European art cinema
  • people interested in religious guilt, martyrdom, and moral extremity
  • viewers who appreciate raw, naturalistic performances

Skip if

  • you want a comforting or uplifting romance
  • you are sensitive to sexual coercion, emotional cruelty, or bleak subject matter
  • you prefer polished, conventional storytelling
  • you dislike films that are deliberately abrasive or spiritually confrontational

Overview

Breaking the Waves is one of the most punishingly sincere films of the 1990s. Lars von Trier strips away polish to trap the viewer inside a story of faith, desire, and self-destruction, and the result is both spiritually charged and emotionally brutal. Emily Watson’s performance is astonishing: fragile, luminous, and terrifying in its commitment.

Worth noting

What makes the film so hard to shake is the way it turns devotion into a test that no one can pass cleanly. The romance is real, but so is the cruelty, and the movie keeps forcing love into impossible shapes. Its chaptered structure, handheld immediacy, and bleak humor all sharpen the sense that this is a tragedy being lived in real time.

Bottom line

This is not an easy recommendation, but it is a major one. If you respond to cinema that risks alienating you in order to reach something raw and transcendent, Breaking the Waves delivers exactly that. If you want emotional safety, stay away; if you want a film that leaves a scar, this is the kind of masterpiece that does it.

Top Letterboxd reviews

Toni (4.5★) · 2931 likes

Lars Von Trier's films got me through a bad time in my life by making it worse❤️

Karsten (4★) · 1274 likes

i feel like shit

dselwyns (5★) · 933 likes

the only breaking was my heart, and the only waves were my tears

🥳 Benjamin 🎉 (4★) · 674 likes

Why did I watch this. It said Lars von Trier right there on the cover, no one to blame but myself.

Bunny🐰🪓 (5★) · 498 likes

When Lars Von Trier redefined romance. The story is about a woman named Bess a simple, God-fearing woman whose life turns from a fairy tale to a hell hole after her husband gets paralyzed due to an unfortunate accident while working on an oil rig, as he asks his wife to see other men and tell him her experience with them when he is unable to have sex with her. Shot with a bleached-out lens which is enough to give… more

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Topics

art-house drama, psychological intensity, religious themes, bleak romance, Dogme-inspired realism, 1990s cinema, emotional devastation, female-led tragedy, provocative melodrama

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