I'm Thinking of Ending Things (2020)

Movie · 2020 · Mystery, Thriller, Drama · 2h 15m · R · English

Curator score: 5.1/10 (633K ratings)

It stays, it sticks, it lingers.

Overview

Nothing is as it seems when a woman experiencing misgivings about her new boyfriend joins him on a road trip to meet his parents at their remote farm.

Ratings

Director

Charlie Kaufman

Production

Likely Story, Projective Testing Service

Cast

Jesse Plemons, Jessie Buckley, Toni Collette, David Thewlis, Guy Boyd, Hadley Robinson, Gus Birney, Abby Quinn, Colby Minifie, Anthony Grasso, Teddy Coluca, Jason Ralph, Oliver Platt, Frederick E. Wodlin, Ryan Steele, Unity Phelan, Norman Aaronson, Ashlyn Alessi, Monica Ayres, Julie Chateauvert

Where to watch

Netflix, Netflix Standard with Ads

Curator Review

Verdict

A dense, unsettling psychological puzzle that blends relationship drama, surreal horror, and existential dread into a deliberately disorienting experience. It’s not for viewers who want clean answers, but it rewards attention with striking performances, sharp formal control, and a haunting emotional aftertaste.

Best for

  • Viewers who enjoy ambiguous, interpretation-heavy films
  • Fans of psychological horror and surreal drama
  • People interested in existential themes, memory, and identity
  • Audiences who appreciate bold acting and formal experimentation

Skip if

  • You want a straightforward thriller with clear plot mechanics
  • You dislike ambiguity or symbolic storytelling
  • You prefer naturalistic dialogue and conventional pacing
  • You want a warm, accessible date-night movie

Overview

Charlie Kaufman turns a simple road-trip premise into a claustrophobic spiral of memory, regret, and self-revision. The film keeps mutating in tone and identity, using repetition, literary references, and eerie domestic detail to make ordinary conversation feel unstable and threatening.

Worth noting

Jessie Buckley and Jesse Plemons anchor the movie with performances that are both intimate and uncanny, while Toni Collette and David Thewlis add a volatile, almost theatrical charge to the farmhouse sequences. The result is less a mystery to solve than a mood to inhabit: funny, sad, grotesque, and deeply anxious.

Bottom line

It can feel intentionally frustrating if you’re looking for a tidy explanation, but that friction is part of the design. As a piece of psychological unease and formal invention, it’s one of the more memorable films of its kind in recent years.

Top Letterboxd reviews

demi adejuyigbe · 14461 likes

Too dumb to understand this. Said as much out loud when the movie ended and my friends confidently explained the synopsis, and I literally did not pick up on any of it. Felt like I was listening to freeform jazz only to have the lights come on and see everybody crying. It sure felt like a nice movie though! Everyone’s just bringing their A game here. Buckley is such a talent, and Toni Collette is one of the funniest actors we… more Too dumb to understand this. Said as much out loud when the movie ended and my friends confidently explained the synopsis, and I literally did not pick up on any of it. Felt like I was listening to freeform jazz only to have the lights come on and see everybody crying. It sure felt like a nice movie though! Everyone’s just bringing their A game here. Buckley is such a talent, and Toni Collette is one of the funniest actors we… more

Morgan (0.5★) · 14038 likes

I’m Thinking of Ending My Netflix Subscription

mia lee vicino (4.5★) · 8304 likes

while iain reid's novel extracts horror from blood and dread, charlie kaufman's interpretation extracts it from existentialism, from the unavoidability of aging, from the unease of being perceived, from the eeriness permeating the claustrophobic atmosphere. they both tell the same story in completely different ways, which is exactly what a book-to-film adaptation should aim to do. in the book, there's a fascinating passage about how humans need allegory and metaphor in order to more comprehensively understand the world around us.… more

michaelpdf (5★) · 7108 likes

how many times does toni collette have to scream before y'all finally give her the oscar

Sally Darr (2.5★) · 6911 likes

this movie is kinda like when you have sex with a film bro and he thinks it’s great and you don’t know what happened and he gaslights you into thinking it was incredible

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Topics

psychological thriller, surreal drama, existential, mind-bending, claustrophobic, unreliable perception, art-house, relationship breakdown, dream logic, darkly comic

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