Past Lives (2023)

Movie · 2023 · Drama, Romance · 1h 46m · PG-13 · English

Curator score: 9.3/10 (1.8M ratings)

Overview

After decades apart, childhood friends Nora and Hae Sung are reunited in New York for one fateful weekend as they confront notions of destiny, love, and the choices that make a life.

Ratings

Director

Celine Song

Production

A24, Killer Films, 2AM, CJ ENM

Cast

Greta Lee, Teo Yoo, John Magaro, Moon Seung-ah, Leem Seung-min, Yoon Ji-hye, Choi Won-young, An Min-young, Seo Yeon-woo, Chang Ki-ha, Shin Hee-cheol, Park Jun-hyuk, Jack Alberts, Jane Yubin Kim, Noo Ri Song, Si Ah Jin, Yoon Seo Choi, Hwang Seung-eon, Jojo T. Gibbs, Emily Cass McDonnell

Curator Review

Verdict

A quietly devastating romantic drama about memory, immigration, and the lives we don’t choose. It’s emotionally precise, beautifully acted, and more interested in the ache of possibility than in melodrama.

Best for

  • viewers who like restrained, adult romance
  • fans of reflective films about identity and time
  • people drawn to immigrant and cross-cultural stories
  • audiences who prefer emotional understatement over big plot turns

Skip if

  • you want a conventional love triangle
  • you need high drama or constant conflict
  • you dislike slow, contemplative pacing
  • you prefer romances with a clear, cathartic ending

Overview

Past Lives is a film of glances, pauses, and the things people cannot quite say to one another. Celine Song turns a simple premise into something intimate and expansive, tracing how childhood bonds can survive in memory even when real life has moved on. The result is tender, precise, and quietly heartbreaking without ever feeling manipulative.

Worth noting

What makes it resonate is its patience. The film understands that longing is not always about wanting someone back; sometimes it is about measuring the distance between the person you were and the person you became. Greta Lee gives the story its emotional center, while the film’s structure lets each character feel like a possible life rather than a fixed symbol.

Bottom line

This is a romance for people who like their love stories complicated by time, geography, and self-knowledge. It lingers because it refuses easy answers, and because it treats ordinary conversation as a place where entire futures can be felt and lost.

Top Letterboxd reviews

Jay (4★) · 81625 likes

found a version without subtitles, to get the full arthur experience

Bobby Wagner (4★) · 54633 likes

telling your long lost friend and potential lover to watch eternal sunshine is an act of emotional violence

Patrick Willems (4★) · 52306 likes

Shoutout to the husband for being shockingly chill about this whole situation

cinema excelsior (4.5★) · 34183 likes

Adding the — You dream in a language that I can't understand to my own depressing cinematic universe that already includes hits like: — I love you. It'll pass. — Feelings can creep up just like that.— I'll go. And I'll stay.— I think it's nice that we share the same sky.

Framesofnick (5★) · 31927 likes

The white guy wrote a book called boner 💀💀

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Topics

intimate drama, adult romance, melancholy, cross-cultural, immigrant experience, slow burn, bittersweet, contemplative, relationship drama, character study

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