Secretary (2002)

Movie · 2002 · Romance, Drama, Comedy · 1h 51m · R · English

Curator score: 5.0/10 (431.6K ratings)

Assume the position.

Overview

A young woman, recently released from a mental hospital, gets a job as a secretary to a demanding lawyer, where their employer-employee relationship turns into a sexual, sadomasochistic one.

Ratings

Director

Steven Shainberg

Production

Slough Pond, double A Films, TwoPoundBag Productions

Cast

James Spader, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Jeremy Davies, Lesley Ann Warren, Stephen McHattie, Patrick Bauchau, Jessica Tuck, Osgood Perkins, Amy Locane, Mary Joy, Michael Mantell, Lily Knight, Sabrina Grdevich, Lacey Kohl, Julene Renee, Lauren Cohn, Ezra Buzzington, Kyle Colerider-Krugh, Steven Fierberg, Herbert Russell

Where to watch

Amazon Prime Video, Philo, Amazon Prime Video with Ads

Curator Review

Verdict

A darkly funny, offbeat workplace romance that turns kink, shame, and self-discovery into a surprisingly tender character study. It’s provocative and divisive, but the performances and tonal control make it a standout for viewers open to taboo material.

Best for

  • Viewers who like erotic dramas with a satirical edge
  • Fans of awkward, character-driven romances
  • People interested in power dynamics and unconventional intimacy
  • Audiences who appreciate deadpan humor mixed with discomfort

Skip if

  • You want a straightforward romance
  • You’re uncomfortable with BDSM themes and sexual power exchange
  • You prefer emotionally warm, conventional relationship stories
  • You dislike tonal mixes of comedy, melancholy, and explicit content

Overview

Secretary is a sharp, strange little movie about desire, control, and the relief of being seen exactly as you are. What could have been a gimmick becomes something more delicate: a portrait of two damaged people discovering a language for intimacy that feels both absurd and sincere.

Worth noting

The film’s humor is dry and uneasy, which helps it avoid the usual glossy erotic-drama clichés. It’s interested in embarrassment, ritual, and the weird dignity of submission and dominance, while never pretending those dynamics are simple or universally healthy.

Bottom line

Maggie Gyllenhaal gives the film its emotional center, and the movie works best when it lets her mix vulnerability with stubbornness. It’s not for everyone, but for the right viewer it’s funny, unsettling, and oddly moving.

Top Letterboxd reviews

Nicole (5★) · 23770 likes

Look at my lawyer Dawgggggg I'm goin to jail 😫🤯🤣

courtney b (4★) · 21597 likes

i have a weakness for romances where both parties are disgusting awkward weirdos who enjoy absurd sex

cinéfila... 🕯️ (4★) · 16072 likes

homegirl went on hunger strike for days just to get james spader to spank her again

Emma Garner (4★) · 9864 likes

i wanna know who in hollywood fucked james spader and spread around to every film exec that he was the best lay of their life because there are wayyyyyy too many movies about james spader being good at sex for it to be a coincidence

talon (5★) · 9236 likes

Look at my lawyer dawg I’m going to cum😭😭😭

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Topics

erotic drama, dark comedy, BDSM, workplace setting, sexual awakening, offbeat romance, psychological, indie film, 2000s cinema, taboo

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