She Came to Me (2023)

Movie · 2023 · Romance, Comedy, Drama · 1h 42m · R · English

Curator score: 1.4/10 (27.9K ratings)

Sometimes you need to get lost.

Overview

Composer Steven Lauddem is plagued by a creative block which leaves him unable to finish the score for his big comeback opera. When his former therapist-turned-wife Patricia suggests he rekindle his creativity by getting lost in the city, Steven sets out in search of inspiration. His epiphany comes after he meets a spirited woman named Katrina and discovers his life has much more potential than he bargained for, or ever could have imagined.

Ratings

Director

Rebecca Miller

Production

Round Films, Killer Films, Somewhere Pictures, AI Film

Cast

Peter Dinklage, Anne Hathaway, Marisa Tomei, Evan Ellison, Harlow Jane, Joanna Kulig, Brian d'Arcy James, Judy Gold, Anthony Roth Costanzo, Samuel H. Levine, Sue Jean Kim, Gregg Edelman, Aalok Mehta, Chris Gethard, Dale Soules, Tommy Buck, George Sheanshang, Francesca Faridany, Bryan Terrell Clark, Tamya Taylor

Where to watch

Amazon Prime Video, Hulu, Amazon Prime Video with Ads

Curator Review

Verdict

A cracked, eccentric romantic comedy-drama with genuine charm, oddball ideas, and a few inspired performances, but also a messy structure and uneven tonal control. It’s more interesting as a strange swing than as a fully satisfying story.

Best for

  • viewers who like offbeat adult rom-coms with a literary or theatrical sensibility
  • fans of films that mix whimsy, melancholy, and sexual frankness
  • people open to narrative messiness if the performances are committed
  • audiences curious about unconventional leading roles and character-driven absurdity

Skip if

  • you want a clean, tightly plotted romance
  • you’re impatient with tonal whiplash and whimsical detours
  • you dislike movies that feel self-consciously quirky
  • you need every subplot to feel fully earned or resolved

Overview

Rebecca Miller aims for a modern fable with a bruised, playful edge, and the movie is at its best when it leans into that off-kilter energy. Peter Dinklage gives the film a grounded center, while Anne Hathaway and Marisa Tomei help push it into stranger, more volatile territory. The result is a romance about creative blockage, desire, and reinvention that feels intentionally unruly, even when it doesn’t fully cohere.

Worth noting

The film’s biggest strength is its willingness to be weird in public: operatic longing, emotional confession, and broad comic invention all share the same frame. At times that makes it feel like several different movies colliding, but it also gives the project a scrappy, unpredictable life. If you respond to movies that are more fascinated by mood and contradiction than neat plotting, there’s plenty here to admire.

Bottom line

Still, the unevenness is real. Some character turns feel abrupt, some ideas are introduced and abandoned, and the film’s sense of whimsy can curdle into self-consciousness. Even so, it’s the kind of misfire that leaves behind a few vivid images and a strong sense of personality, which may be enough for the right viewer.

Top Letterboxd reviews

davidehrlich (4★) · 639 likes

marisa tomei plays a tugboat captain! peter dinklage writes an opera about her! anne hathaway strips for chris gethard while monologuing about kreplach! brian d'arcy james is the most soulless court stenographer/civil war re-enactor in movie history! joanna kulig! bryce dessner's score brings them all together in the form of a beautifully cracked modern fable! sad so few people saw this (myself included), but thrilled to live in a world where something like this might still get made. Rebecca Miller really doesn't miss.

brad 🪴 (2★) · 380 likes

a crime against aspect ratios, and for what

RobynSummer (1★) · 317 likes

What the hell was this movie? It’s hard for me to articulate why I found this so terrible. The story feels like they combined three different scripts together. There’s the composer with writer’s block who gains inspiration after he has an affair with an unstable and quirky boat captain. There’s the therapist who wants to become a nun because of guilt (I think). And there’s the romance between an 18 year and a 16 year old that’s framed as pure… more

Sam (3★) · 313 likes

Anne Hathaway gets naked but Peter Dinklage doesn’t?? There is no god.

ndc32002 (3★) · 263 likes

a neurotic composer, a cannibalistic, romantically addicted tugboat captain, and a germophoic nun walk into a bar...

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Topics

quirky romance, adult comedy-drama, artistic crisis, modern fable, offbeat humor, melancholy, urban oddity, relationship turmoil, theatrical, indie

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